Support after domestic abuse and coercive control
Abuse isn’t always physical. Being controlled, isolated, belittled or watched can leave you doubting your own mind long after the relationship has ended.
You might recognise some of this
- Second-guessing yourself, or feeling it was somehow your fault
- Feeling on edge, jumpy or unable to relax even when you’re safe
- Struggling to trust others, or to trust your own judgement
- Shame about how long you stayed, or about going back
- Ongoing contact through children, courts or money that keeps reopening the wound
How I work with this
Your safety comes first. If you’re still in the relationship, we’ll go at a pace that doesn’t put you at risk, and I can help you think about support from specialist services.
If it isn’t safe for messages from a therapist to be seen at home, tell me when you book and I’ll contact you only in the way you choose.
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Other support
If you’re in danger now, call 999. If you can’t speak, call 999 and press 55 when prompted. The National Domestic Abuse Helpline is free and open 24 hours: 0808 2000 247.